About five years ago, those responsibilities dovetailed just before a Mother's Day service. While I was pouring juice into hundreds of tiny cups, one of my LG friends told me she was miscarrying. Because my David was away for work and her husband was serving elsewhere in the building that morning, I sat with my friend and saw the Mother's Day service through her eyes:
Opening Scripture: Psalm 139:13; Jeremiah 1:5; and every other "womb" verse you can think ofI don't remember the exact details of the service. I do remember how that Mother's Day felt in light of the pain in my friend's posture and face.
Praise Song: "Blessed Be the Name of the Lord (You Give and Take Away)"
Interlude: 10,000 baby dedications
Teaching: "Born of Flesh and Spirit"
Closing: Standing ovation for all the moms
Survival Tip 4: Know the Best Place to Worship
Why do we join church families? Just to have somewhere to go on Sunday morning?
God wants us to worship in a community because we learn and grow better when we are together. We should be each other's supporters, challengers, cheerleaders, and keepers. And we need to recognize when each role is appropriate.
Mother's Day is one of those Sundays we choose to cheer for moms and the hard work they do all year. Certainly they deserve the praise! But we also need to be cognizant of our sisters who need support those same days.
One great thing about moms is that they don't want to hurt others. By nature they are nurturers. I bet they'd be just as content with a subtle "you're awesome!" from the pulpit, knowing the traditional fireworks display is hurting their infertile sisters.
Besides, it's their kiddos' drawings and husbands' breakfasts that they look forward to and remember, right?
So I say, hey Sunday-morning service organizers: dial it back a notch. Save the baby dedications and emotional songs for another day.
(And kuddos to our old church for doing just that in the following years!)
My anecdote tells the stories of two women: one who is miscarrying (my friend) and one who has accepted God's plan for her not to have children (me). I was at the place spiritually and emotionally where I could honestly sing, "You give and take away. My heart will choose to say, 'Lord, blessed be Your Name.'" My friend was NOT. She needed support (which I hope I offered) and the love and healing only God could give to her.
God will find you, no matter where you choose to worship Him on Mother's Day. If you look at your church's order of service and think, "I can't do this," then find a place and a way to honor Him privately. Tell Him about your pain and fear. Ask Him to heal your spirit. Then commit to living your life according to His plan for you.
That private worship time will honor God and bless you better than any corporate service where you spend 90 minutes fighting back tears.
So how do you worship God on Mother's Day? Comment below with your stories or tips, and you'll be entered to win a signed copy of Barren among the Fruitful and a "Be Hopeful" necklace!