Monday, August 29, 2016

Truth Will Set You Free

I would correct that to say, "When there is no truth, there is only perception."
I first studied philosophy in high school as part of an advanced English class. We read L'Etranger and No Exit, and memorized the principles of relativism and existentialism and other long-forgotten-by-me -isms. I remember one thing well: I don't enjoy philosophy.

Twenty years later, philosophy penetrates my life (and yours). Take a look at your social media feeds. What are most people posting about? Their perceptions of politics. And many are ready to have knock-down drag-out fights to prove to everyone else that their perceptions are right. And factual. And true.

Every knock-down drag-out David and I have ever had resulted from differing perspectives of truth.

My best friend, Melinda, likes to tell everyone that David and I are a psychology experiment--the one where two people watch a video of the same car crash but have completely different recollections of what happened: "The car was blue." "No, the car was green." That's us, and those different perceptions of truth make for heated but pointless arguments. How relieved we both are when we can find the truth by rewatching the car crash: The car was actually red. We can stop arguing now.

Rarely (thankfully) our arguments result from actual untruth...meaning one of us has lied. Those are the conversations that both begin and end with pain, because a lie is a betrayal. You can't rewatch a video or Google the truth to settle a lie-spawned argument once and for all. Feelings have been hurt, and the relationship needs time to mend.

I think we as a society have largely lost the ability to distinguish between perception and truth, and that is one of the reasons politics are so ugly--particularly in 2016. My opinion about a candidate or a policy is not truth, so people who disagree with me aren't technically wrong (even though I think they are!) or lying.

Many philosophies, and most of this postmodern secular society, state that there is no such thing as absolute truth. Christianity disagrees. In the gospel of John, Jesus talks a lot about truth, and it pretty much boils down to this:
I tell you the truth, anyone who hears My voice and keeps My word will never experience death. (John 8:51, The Voice).
If you are a Christian, then you believe one absolute truth: Jesus is the Savior of humanity. It is rare (though not unattested) that I see knock-down drag-out fights over that statement.

If you follow a philosophy that declares there is no absolute truth, then your perception becomes your truth. So when someone else disagrees with that perception, then you feel personally affronted. A "car crash argument" becomes a "lie-spawned argument," a betrayal.

We should follow Jesus' example in John. When He declared truth and others disagreed, He countered by speaking the same truth in different ways. In that conversation, He did not back down. But when he encountered people who behaved or believed differently or even incorrectly (as in, Romans and Samaritans), He always responded the same way: by revealing the truth in love. He didn't argue over the semantics of where the temple should be (John 4) or even about the punishment for adultery (John 8:1-11).

We would rather argue over the semantics. In a climate where opinions and perceptions are elevated and advertised on social media, Christians need to remember that there is only one absolute truth--that Jesus is the savior of humanity--and that all Christians, by definition, agree on it.

Then we need to respond to disagreements as Jesus did: in love and with the one absolute truth. For if we show love, the world will see the absolute truth.

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Kaleidoscope of Life

I was excited to buy advance tickets to Coldplay's "Head Full of Dreams" tour for David. He has loved them since long before
anyone else heard "Clocks," and I truly believed we would have to fly to a London show in order to see them perform (they
rarely come to the US and, until now, have played few venues when they do).
David and I just got back from our first vacation since 2011. That year we used our first Southwest points to visit San Diego for our eighth wedding anniversary. This year we used our last Southwest points to fly to a Coldplay concert in Boston, where we lived right after we married.

Ignoring for the moment the most awesome concert I've ever attended, this trip "home" was both surreal and affirmative.

We rode and drove and walked the areas we knew...but most of our favorite businesses have been replaced. Even the Harvard Shirt Shop, that had the cheapest apparel in town, was gone from Harvard Square. As were all of our friends. Sure, there were still thousands of people milling around, but no one we recognized. We don't know anyone who lives in Cambridge anymore. In short, nothing we loved there was eagerly awaiting our return as we had been eagerly awaiting this trip.
Cambridge is sporting new-to-us dedicated bike lanes, like those
coming to on our own Bailey Avenue in spring, and beautifully
renovated housing.

Not only did we notice what was missing from Cambridge, but we found bits and pieces of our new home. There are bright green bike lanes at Central Square (like those CDOT is planning for our city), and the houses surrounding our other-side-of-the-tracks apartment are now up-and-coming (much like our current neighborhood). Riding the T--dark and dusty in the bowls of the city--made us dream about the Chattanooga Light Rail that is a real possibility for clean mass transportation in our city. In all the things we loved about Boston, we saw shades of Chattanooga. It was as if Boston was telling us, "Everything you love about me is coming to your new city. Enjoy it all--minus the inflated housing prices!"

Who doesn't love subtle confirmation that you are where you're supposed to be?  After years of feeling displaced, we are so happy to be home. Probably the biggest reason we know this is home is the church we've adopted. You don't officially "join" our church because it is, as our pastor likes to say, "La Familia." We are family. We serve and love one another and our community because we know God's love and want the Holy Spirit to work through us. We were never able to find the right church in Denver, and our home church in Murfreesboro has evolved without us. It's wonderful to visit, but they aren't our church family anymore. And that's a good thing!

So back to Coldplay. The primary artwork for this amazing concert series is a kaleidoscope, and it speaks to me. As you turn a kaleidoscope, the view changes but every shiny bit and piece still has its place. That's kind of how I see our adult life so far. Just when I think we're perfectly settled, God flips something around to give us a new and more beautiful view of the life He's created. We love what we're seeing from Chattanooga, and we are excited to experience His changes that are ahead.

Friday, July 8, 2016

A Study in Botanicals

Looking at this photograph, I realize my taste is "square." I need
to add a few more "twists and turns" to my design aesthetic!
People used to tell my Granny that she should be an interior designer because she did such a beautiful job decorating her own home. She would respond, "I only know what pleases my eye."

I like that, so I've adopted her modest phrase as my personal decorating slogan. Teal ceilings please my eye. So do solid walls of tile. Bizarre? Probably so.

David and I now live in our fourth home (not counting those many months we spent living in hotels), and each new location has given me the opportunity to tweak my decor. I've changed some colors and fabrics with each new place, although our main pieces of furniture have remained unchanged.

Our new home has given me a unique challenge. How do David and I, who have transitional-to-contemporary design preferences, live in a house that predates World War I? One answer is symmetry, and it is currently on display in our dining room. I chose to hang 18 classic botanical studies, printed from the 1613 originals, in simple frames but to grand effect.

Once I decided that I "needed" a crop of botanical prints, I discovered I could never afford them in a million years. Small framed prints go for $60 each--and those are the cheap ones! It was time for where-there's-a-will-there's-a-way Amanda to make good on her reputation.

First I found a book of botanicals with enough prints in the right colors to tear out and frame. Besler's Book of Flowers and Plants fit the bill at $10. That was the easy part.

The hard part was finding frames at a volume discount. I spent months off-and-on searching the internet and stores for them. Finally Hobby Lobby had a 50%-off sale on wood frames that would long as I was willing to attach the saw hooks myself. This made the project markedly more difficult, as hanging the collages evenly now depended on where I put the nails in the wall and if I centered the saw teeth. But at $3 per frame, I couldn't say no.

I completed this project one day when I needed a break from
tiling the guest bathroom. That's why there's a gi-normous bag
of mortar and stacks of tiles on the other end of the table!
Then it was time for innovation: the frames I ordered were larger than the prints, and I absolutely could not afford mats. Remembering the buffered tissue paper I'd ordered when I was archiving my family's memorabilia, I dug out 18 sheets, folded them in half, and laid them between the prints and the frames' backboards. For $0, I had a unique look that would preserve my project for years. (Buffered tissue paper takes acid out of inks and paper, meaning my prints shouldn't yellow over time.)

It took about 4 hours to do the whole project, from tearing out the prints to hanging the frames, and spawned a new personal slogan: "Practice, Precision, Patience." I'm going to need that one in every room of this house.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Fourth-Day Flood (part 3): Tiles and the Tub Man

Wolf in sheep's clothing: this beautiful, period-appropriate bath
renovation hid water damage behind cheap unpainted beadboard
and rust under DIY porcelain reglazing.
Maybe the problem was the wall and ceiling color. Both the guest bathroom and the dining room were painted with a drab, flat crimson paint that clashed with everything else in the house...and looked like dried blood.

I see it now: these rooms were ready to make our bank account bleed.

It took 8 months to finish the dining room repairs, and in that time, we still didn't have a fix for our bathtub.

The first plumber (that genius who had filled the bathtub and reflooded our dining room just "to see what had happened") said we had a simple problem with seals between the tub and the plumbing. Later when he came to fix it--and the water continued to flow around the pipes after his repair--he informed me that the plumbing was perfect. Instead, we had a hole all the way through the cast iron tub near the drain.

I don't do anything halfway. While the
tub was in the middle of the room, I
removed the vanity, pulled off all the
beadboard and moldings, repaired the
walls, and tiled floor-to-ceiling.
How do you repair a cast iron tub? I asked around, and the historical society told me about the Bathtub Man. All he does is restore claw foot tubs. It took several weeks to get him out to our house, and when he arrived, he showed me that there was no hole. The problem was the plumbing, not the tub.

So I hired a new plumber--the one the Bathtub Man recommended--and we began 6 more months of imperfect repair after imperfect repair. The plumber would reattach the feet (3 of which had the strange habit of falling off, leaving only 1 foot and the plumbing supporting the tub) and redo the plumbing connections. All would be well for 1 or 2 guests' showers, and then the feet would start falling off again.

As exasperation gripped everyone involved, I decided to call the Bathtub Man back. Armed with more "symptoms," he was able to diagnose the problem: 3 of the 4 feet did not fit the tub. They looked as if they fit, but they were actually 1/16th of an inch too small. As a result, the combined weight of the tub, water, and an adult would slowly push the feet out from under the tub, breaking the plumbing seals. He could fix it, but it would require welding nickel onto the iron feet to make them the right shape for the tub. (Sounds like a cheap fix, right? Ugh.)

I went for a classic look: floor-to-
ceiling white subway tile with a 
carrara marble accent.
We had a solution, but we also had a deadline. My sister-in-law and her family were going to move in for 3 weeks while they were between houses. I knew there was no way 4 adults and a child could share our master bath for 3 weeks and continue loving one another!

The Bathtub Man scheduled the 2-day repair. First he would come out, flip over the tub, take measurements, and take the feet back to his shop for welding. While the tub was upside down in the middle of the room, I would tile. Everything. Second he would return the following week to attach the feet and flip the tub. Then I would hire the plumber to come back and reconnect everything. Easy-peasy!

Hiccup 1: When the Bathtub Man flipped over the tub, we discovered the bottom was covered in rust. Mostly surface rust, but some more serious. The renovators had clearly found this tub somewhere, picked out a few feet that looked good, painted the bottom with (I kid you not!) white Krylon, and reglazed the inside themselves with some DIY product...without bothering to remove the drain cover first. Rust, rust, everywhere. I was told to clean and paint the bottom with marine-grade Rustoleum, and the Bathtub Man adjusted his timeline to include some spot reglazing (we just couldn't afford to redo the whole thing).

Hiccup 2: It takes a long time to lay over 2,000 tiles. I gave myself a week, but it took me almost 4 weeks AND the help of David and Melinda thanks to volume, unlevel walls and floor, and missing insulation. It's done, and it's beautiful. And waterproof! But I reinjured my right rotator cuff (torn way back when I was a swimmer), and it will be many months before the pain, swelling, and tingling subside.

Hiccup 3: The plumber couldn't come out for more than a week after the rest of the repairs had finished, so our family still had to share the master bathroom for awhile. But we love each other!

It's still a work in progress. I've installed a standing shower (upgraded for my tall brother-in-law!), but I still need to repaint the window molding, and I want to change the lighting and mirror so they are proportionate with the 9-foot ceilings. (Right now they are WAY too small and hung too low.) But that will require hiring an electrician...and I'm not ready to wash more blood-money down that tub's drain!

Monday, May 9, 2016

Fourth-Day Flood (part 2): Baseboards and Brass

For 5 days you couldn't hear yourself think anywhere in our house
as the industrial fans dried out the walls and ceiling space. The
effected baseboards were removed to be dried and straightened
off-site, but we never saw them again.

If you've ever dealt with structural damage--be it from water or termites or what-have-you--then you know that fixing the secondary damage is more costly than eliminating the problem. In the days following the flood, we were led to believe that our biggest headache would be the dining room repair, not the bathroom plumbing itself. (This, of course, would prove incorrect.)

As soon as it started raining from our dining room rafters, I was on the phone with our home warranty company (thoughtfully and thankfully provided by the sellers). Unfortunately, they were worse than worthless. The plumber they made us use recreated the flood the next day, and then declared he could not help because "there might be mold." The water abatement company they made us hire tried to overcharge us by thousands of dollars and threw away the 110-year-old baseboard moldings they were supposed to dry and straighten off-site. (The baseboards would be the most costly repair: a carpenter had to make a mold and then fabricate them to match the rest of the house.)

The warranty company then refused to pay for ANY repairs; they decided "the plumbing issue was preexisting," so subsequent damage was not covered by our home warranty. And they didn't care that it was "their" subcontractors who caused the most expensive damage after the initial flood.

The dining room as it stands today: bright, calm colors, lovely
flowers, and 18 framed-by-me botanical studies. I love how 
the modern color palette emphasizes the centennial architecture.
There we were--just one week after moving into our house--with a huge hole in our ceiling, no baseboards, a nonfunctioning guest bathroom, and mounting bills. And so our house remained for 8 months, until we were able to hire carpenters and painters.

Finally it was time to have some fun! I chose grey-and-teal thermal draperies for the dining room windows then coordinated the room's paint colors. My mother (and probably everyone else) thought I was crazy when I decided I'd be painting my ceiling teal. Grey walls, teal ceiling, white trim. This was a bold choice because the room can be seen from most angles downstairs.

Less controversial, but equally impactful to my detail-oriented eye, is my continuing restoration of the room's hardware. This house is FULL of solid brass, unlacquered hardware--door knobs, casement hinges, window latches, you name it!--that have been covered with paint over the decades.

It took me hours to polish each piece, but the
results are gorgeous. I love how the tarnish
remains in the tiny crevices and adds dimension
to the pattern, as it does in my equally beloved
Until we moved here, I was a vocal brass hater. In our first house, I spent years slowly replacing every monkey-metal doorknob, hinge, and faucet with brushed-nickel fixtures. That cheap yellow metal they produce these days makes me cringe and "colored" my impression of brass. But I've done a 180. It thrills my soul that these solid metal beauties are hiding under sloppy DIY projects waiting for me to, quite literally, make them shine again.

I acknowledge that I am strange. I paint ceilings teal, and I LOVE polishing. In college we AOIIs would clean the house once per month, and I was the only person who wanted silver duty. Back then I did it all by hand; this time I had help.

A few weeks before I started this polishing project, David and I bought a nail grinder for Copper that is made by Dremel. I soon realized that the nail grinder could accept almost any Dremel accessory--including polishing wheels! I burned through 30 polishing wheels getting the dining room hardware clean, but the result is worth the time, effort, and cost.

So at the 8-month mark, we had our dining room back. But the upstairs bathroom? Still out of commission with undiagnosed bathtub problems...